Truth # 1: There are no boundaries in infertility.
Infertility is a complex condition in an ever-changing and progressing field where medicine is helping miracles happen. New technology and techniques have been evolving since fertility treatments were first available. What couldn't be done in the past to overcome infertility has been blown out of the water and reproductive medicine innovation continues.
Truth #2: Fertility doesn't discriminate.
Infertility does not discriminate based on gender, ethnic or socioeconomic background. It's more common than many realize with one in six couples on average, a number that continues to increase, experiencing difficulty conceiving.
Truth #3: You are not alone.
Look around the next time you're in a restaurant. With about 15% of couples experiencing infertility, you'll see how many others could be just like you. There are many support groups and online patient networks with great resources to help you link with others experiencing similar fertility difficulties.
Truth #4: Your ObGyn is not the same as a fertility specialist.
Many women talk with their ObGyn about their fertility struggles in the early stages; this is a great first step! Some will perform basic fertility evaluations and may even begin treatment including underlying physical conditions which may be impacting fertility as well as the administration of ovulation induction medication. For more advanced evaluation and treatment, head to a reproductive endocrinologist specializing in fertility evaluation and treatment. Once a viable pregnancy is confirmed, you can go right back to your ObGyn.
Truth #5: They lied when they said getting pregnant was easy.
An otherwise healthy 30-year-old woman has a roughly 15 - 20% chance of conceiving naturally each month, while an otherwise healthy 40-year-old woman has about a 5% chance of conceiving naturally each month. Optimizing natural fertility is key to maximizing your chances of conception each month.
Truth #6: All infertility cases are not the same.
Each infertility warrior goes through their own unique experience. Common underlying issues may exist but every journey is different. Try not to compare your story to anyone else's. With that being said, the emotional support from others experiencing infertility or who have completed their journey can be invaluable.
Truth #7: It's okay to ask for help.
Why should you do this on your own?!? Many mental health professionals specialize in infertility and/or relationships which are often directly impacted when there is a fertility struggle. Look for a professional you have a connection and can share your emotions with - the good, bad, AND especially the ugly.
Truth #8: You have options.
The technology that exists now is leagues ahead of where things were just 10 years ago. Reproductive technologies continually improve but the most important thing is to learn about your options so you can confidently make an informed decision about which fertility path is right for you.
Truth #9: It's not fair-- You can be mad!
It's okay to be angry, sad, frustrated, jealous or any other emotion you darn well please. We all have that friend who looks at her husband and gets pregnant. Meanwhile, you're trying so hard and putting everything you have into making a tiny human and it still hasn't worked. It is absolutely not fair - so do something about it and take a step towards empowering your fertility wellness.
Truth #10: Infertility is manageable-- but it's better with support.
You've been through so much to get here. It's inspiring how strong you are for keeping any sense of sanity throughout the months, or even years, of trying. Whether it's your best friend, sister, hair dresser, or a professional - make the choice to ask for help and to allow more support along your fertility journey.
Clarity. Confidence. Control.
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